Crush

I recently had a student of mine ask if it was ok to have a crush. My answer is, as expected, complicated and yet not. There is, in my mind, not just a quick response to this question. You have to ask yourself a few questions. First, is your motive pure? What has caused this heart palpitating, stomach churning, teenage giggling feeling to arise in your being? This questioning then leads to further questioning. Is the cause lust? Really, is the main motive for this crush simply that the guy is cute, hot, sick, etc.? If it is, then the crush is wrong. Do I need to continue? Let's face it, it is physical attractiveness that has brought you to this Cinderella feeling. He is Prince Charming.
So how do I handle these feelings? It is ok to think someone is attractive. In the words of my mom, "when you stop finding people attractive, you're dead." Crushes are not a sin, but could easily become sin if allowed.
Remember, keep Christ first! Pray in all areas of your life, this includes crushes. Be friends with as many people as you can and when the time is right and you are old enough, Christ will bring you the one that is meant for you. Purity above all! Christ at the center!